Aaron Clarey is straightforward about his opinions. He knows some will be offended. And he doesn’t care.
In a recent Youtube video, Abusing MGTOW, Clarey describes three groups among Men Going Their Own Way:
- Veterans (of marriage or long-term relationships) who are saying, “no more”.
- Young men who could date and aren’t afraid to ask women out, but who have opted out after seeing fathers, brothers, uncles, etc. screwed over by family court.
- Cowards/posers who want women but are too afraid to ask them out, and who abuse MGTOW as their excuse.
The comment section is not favourable.
While I think Clarey was harsh, I also found some value in what he said. Below is a copy-n-paste of a comment I posted to his video:
Strong emotional responses. As a divorced, middle aged guy who doesn’t plan to remarry, and even quit dating because it’s just not worth it – but who hasn’t adopted the MGHOW label due to problems I see with how many MGTOW present themselves – I understand where Clarey is coming from.
Clarey is one to use strong language (eg “cowards”). But this creates an emotional response, at which point some people stop listening.
Many young men are shy, and so approaching women is difficult. I wouldn’t call this cowardice. And young women, getting so much attention, are too often arrogant and uncompassionate. They literally have no idea what it’s like for men.
Further, many of these young men are NOT cowards – they have approached women often but face constant rejection. Often this is through no fault of their own, but instead because even an average looking 20 year old woman has so much more sexual power than the average man.
Other young men do have emotional problems or poor social skills, and so even unattractive women reject them. One criticism I do think if very valid for many MGTOW is emotional immaturity.
So, while I think Clarey’s “third group” does exist, “poser” isn’t a word I’d choose. Instead I’d say “MGTOW by default.”